define it

over the holidays, victoria's secret aired their usual soft-porn holiday ads. i think it's so weird to see these women parading down a snowy street in lingerie - ack. but anyway, the line they used this year irritated me, caused me to think a bit. it went something like,
" give me everything i want, and nothing i need..."

AAAAAAH!

no no no. i do not like that idea at all. why? well, sure it's nice to get things you want, and to be spoiled without reason. but to see these sexed up emaciated females dressed in the next to nothings that are simply designed for men, say these things... it was so awful. why?

--first of all, these images are totally about women selling their bodies, not anything else, to men. yes, i love victoria's secret underwear. they have pretty stuff in there that when i was married ... it was very nice to have. but! the main audience that their ad campaigns shoot for is not the married/monogamous public. it's single women, and men that are willing to spend ridiculous amounts of money on something momentary and completely physical. something selfish.

-- sex is not about being selfish! and in the right context it is SO MUCH MORE than the physical. God created this beautiful act for connection - one soul to another. and, it's a necessary part of marriage, any one in a healthy marriage will tell you that. it's not *just* about what i want, it's about giving the person i love what he needs, and is worthy of.

-- if, as a single woman, the first thing you do is ask only for what you want, and only advertise for what you want, it'll be great for a while but honey, expect it all to cave in someday. if your needs aren't met, if the man you chose to favor looks hot but can't see YOU, and who you are and wants to do nothing more than sleep with you and show you off, then you will end up miserable and empty. simple as that.

so, "give me everything i need, (first), and nothing i want (until later)"

okay, so i would never be a very good advertising consultant, but at least i'd be happy. well, that's my rant for the day... it's been building a while. see, my definitions have changed, and i hope they've changed because i choose to see the world, and all its relationships through God's eyes - to see things as He intended them to be. so, to tack on to another of victoria's tag lines, "what is sexy?"

-- sexy is honesty
-- sexy is a godly man or woman
-- sexy is unconditional love
-- sexy is being able to express faith
-- sexy is pursuing righteousness
-- sexy is honoring your wife or husband, boyfriend or girlfriend

... of course we won't get into why i think "sexy" is a term best used only by married people, because, i just used it. ;)